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Thank you for your truth telling. You help more people than you know. 💜

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I’m in the same place Heather. I love your words and your heart, thank you for sharing ❤️

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Thank you so much for this. My mother came to visit me after 3 years of minimal contact. She's staying for 2 months, disrupting my daily life and reminding me of why I hate her in the first place. I found a great excuse not to take her out on mother's day.

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OMG thank you for writing this. I've been estranged from my mom for ~20 years, zero contact, and I still second-guess myself about whether I'm a bad person for this. <3

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here come the waterworks again. My mother is very much alive and my anger simmers, boils, then simmers again. I wonder how it will be after...

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The last lines of this took my breath away. Thank you for sharing your heart with us.

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Very very very relatable. Thank you for sharing and wishing you the best on the lifelong process of working through All Of This.

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Thank you for writing this. I am also estranged from my mother and feel endlessly guilty. I would read a whole book about your anger towards your mother.

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Thank you for this. My parents aren’t dead but I dread these “holidays” because I know it’s the time to get either love or hate bombing emails. It’s curious that you couldn’t feel anger while I can’t feel anything but. I have to actively work at being kind but you have always been a role model for me in this respect, so thank you and a hearty “you’re not alone” from the other side of the world!

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