Oh Heather. Of course this made me weepy. When I saw this email in my inbox, I saw "Bad Girls" and didn't know about the UK tv show so I assumed it was about the extremely gay episode of Buffy. (That episode makes everyone gay when they watch it, right?) But this post, thank you so much for it. I ended up reading the whole thing even though I'm low on spoons (longcovid first waver, I knew you in the body politic forum..the soft butch that couldn't, inspired me to get my first mobility device...)... and I realized I'm pretty sure I also stopped in a park by Lake Lanier -- just once -- to be in a wide open space for a panic attack. A panic attack is a crappy way to be by a lake, but a lake is an excellent place to have a panic attack. So grateful for you and your words. Talking about the extremely hard shit is so healing to witness and helps your readers (or at least me) think about our own shit in new ways and has these nice ripple effects but even if it didn't. <3
I know this is just a parasocial relationship but I hope you know there are more of us irl who would listen to you tell us your times tables if we came across you in a park. 💛
Another banger. Also, us Southern girls just write different. And we’re bad in all the good ways, especially on paper.
Sadly my partner is mourning the loss of this kind of mom. She’s not dead, but she’s in the no contact phase after both boundaries were set and things fell against her mother (irrational) wants and needs. Oh, and my partner is supposedly a “life ruiner” too.
This is beautiful. I’m so glad you had Bad Girls and fan fiction and that sweet stranger by the lake to help you through. Support can come from the most unexpected places sometimes but thank goodness for that.
There are so many touch points of my life in this story. I can't thank you enough for sharing it and validating these experiences for all who see it. I nearly skipped reading it- because I don't do fandom, forums, and fan fic and never watched 'Bad Girls' or 'The L Word'. That'll teach me to never miss a chance to read something important! Signed, an Alabama girl
Oh Heather. Of course this made me weepy. When I saw this email in my inbox, I saw "Bad Girls" and didn't know about the UK tv show so I assumed it was about the extremely gay episode of Buffy. (That episode makes everyone gay when they watch it, right?) But this post, thank you so much for it. I ended up reading the whole thing even though I'm low on spoons (longcovid first waver, I knew you in the body politic forum..the soft butch that couldn't, inspired me to get my first mobility device...)... and I realized I'm pretty sure I also stopped in a park by Lake Lanier -- just once -- to be in a wide open space for a panic attack. A panic attack is a crappy way to be by a lake, but a lake is an excellent place to have a panic attack. So grateful for you and your words. Talking about the extremely hard shit is so healing to witness and helps your readers (or at least me) think about our own shit in new ways and has these nice ripple effects but even if it didn't. <3
Oh, Heather. Thank you for this one.
I know this is just a parasocial relationship but I hope you know there are more of us irl who would listen to you tell us your times tables if we came across you in a park. 💛
This is stunningly beautiful. Thank you.
Thank you for this. Heather. I can’t wait to read your whole dang book!
What a beautiful story! You wove the layers together so well. Thank you for sharing this painful and exhilarating part of your past!
🥹 So tender, so beautifully written, so close to home. Thank you for sharing this!
Another banger. Also, us Southern girls just write different. And we’re bad in all the good ways, especially on paper.
Sadly my partner is mourning the loss of this kind of mom. She’s not dead, but she’s in the no contact phase after both boundaries were set and things fell against her mother (irrational) wants and needs. Oh, and my partner is supposedly a “life ruiner” too.
This is beautiful. I’m so glad you had Bad Girls and fan fiction and that sweet stranger by the lake to help you through. Support can come from the most unexpected places sometimes but thank goodness for that.
Absolutely beautiful writing! I would also run home at lunch if I knew you had a new posting!
There are so many touch points of my life in this story. I can't thank you enough for sharing it and validating these experiences for all who see it. I nearly skipped reading it- because I don't do fandom, forums, and fan fic and never watched 'Bad Girls' or 'The L Word'. That'll teach me to never miss a chance to read something important! Signed, an Alabama girl